Be The Have, Not the Have Not
Be the HAVE, not the HAVE NOT
By Edwin Carrasquillo
At some point in your life you may have heard the term “the haves and the have nots” I’m sure this term has struck a chord with you whether positively or negatively. The HAVES being the people that get things done and see to have everything they want. The HAVE NOTS being the people wishing they had what others did so life could be easier. These terms are tools that people use to concede, to allow their goals and dreams to be pulled away from them slightly. It can be very simple to say “If I could train four times per day I could be a professional athlete too”, or “If I was raised in a house with means, life would be so much simpler”.
This type of verbiage can be very detrimental to you when it comes to achieving the things that you want. Goal setting is extremely important, but as such, so is goal maintenance and self talk. You should be surrounding yourself with the HAVES. The haves are not necessarily people, or even tangible things, instead they are positive influences, positive self talk and a dedicated attitude towards consistently working towards your goal. By choosing to be a have you can see the bigger picture. How do you want your life to be? What do you want to accomplish? If your life was a movie that you directed, what would the storyline be? Without a strong sense of purpose and a goal to work towards we become stuck in the “HAVE NOT” phase, consistently wishing, wanting and comparing ourselves to others.
Instead, living with a HAVE mentality and being grateful for what you have and what you are working towards will make all the difference when it comes to reaching your goals. Be a leader and lead by example. Show others that they too can have what they want if they commit to it.
Remember, everything was once impossible until someone did it for the first time. Don’t for one second think that you are the only one who is nervous and unsure about where your life is taking you. Focus on the things you truly want, remember WHY you want them and hold on tight. Fight to be a HAVE, not a HAVE NOT.
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